What is wrong with me?

Am I Suffering From Depression?

What is wrong with Me?

I Can’t Function Like Other People!

Am I Suffering Depression?

 The following is a possible scenario involving some young people but one of them is suffering  undiagnosed depression.

Friend: “Hey how about coming to the footy with us?”

Johnny: “ I just don’t feel like it, I would rather stay home”. “Besides it costs money and I am not that interested in the footy anyway.”

Friend: “Then what about meeting a bunch of friends at the pub after the match. We will shout if money is an issue.?”

Johnny : ” Aw no I am too tired,  I want to go to bed early tonight.”

These are just lame excuses indicating a lack of interest in spending time with friends. The friends will start to drift away and Johnny becomes more alone and more depressed.

Something is wrong with Johnny
Johnnies friends walk away, not knowing how to respond to his depression

Mother “How are you going with that job application, can I help you with it?”

Johnny: Yells Get lost and mind your own f**k**g business. “

Johnny has lost motivation and his fuse has become quite short so his family are the most likely to cop the short end of the stick. Angry outbursts become a regular scenario and parents or siblings no longer know how to approach Johnny. He cannot focus on completing any tasks and fills his time as a recluse, smoking dope or consuming alcohol in the false belief that it will help him feel better.

You see Johnny is showing typical signs of depression but nobody really recognises it. He does not even understand himself that he is suffering from depression.

I Feel Like Shit and Nobody Cares!

Johnny is spending more and more time either locked away in his room or wandering down the street aimlessly. Little things might set him off and he will get very irritated. A little kid rides his bike past as Johnny is walking slowly toward the park.” There will be no eye contact between the two but the kid senses something is not right with Johnny so asks ” are you OK mate? The response sends the kid on his way with the words wrack off still resonating in his head.

Johnny feels a bit guilty because of his reaction but justifies it by thinking ” he should have minded his own damn business.”

He continues along the road aimlessly feeling extremely unhappy, and irritated by everyone and everything. He will kick anything in the way to try to overcome his frustration with life in general but nothing makes him feel any better. After several hours of wandering he might return to his room feeling more miserable than he was before. His room will be unkempt and he will feel extremely frustrated when he can’t find something he wants to use such as his phone. .

His family and friends do care but it is getting increasingly frustrating for them too. Nobody really understands that he is suffering a bout of deep depression and he needs some help but he is unable to see it himself.

My Life is Not Worth Living!

I am a f**kin idiot. ” I can’t do anything right, nobody really cares about me and no one will miss me if I am not here anymore.

“My life is over, I can’t go on living like this. Everything is all my fault and I am just not good enough to stay in this world, it and everybody in it would be better off without me.”

Johnny’ s feelings are overwhelming and the more these thoughts play over in his head the more at risk he is of committing suicide. His mind does not see things rationally and where for most people they can enjoy feeling positive and optimistic for Johnny this is no longer possible. He continues to wallow in negative thoughts about himself and the world around him until one day he will decide the world really would be better off without him and suicide will become his method of resolving the things bothering him.

Johnny is suffering deep depression and he needs to seek some expert help before it is too late.

I am So Tired, I Just Want to Sleep!

Am I suffering depression?
What is wrong with me?

Johnny is getting increasingly tired. He spends more and more time sleeping. He may be experiencing muscle weakness and lack of energy and so spending more time in bed seems to be the answer.

He is not eating proper meals and could begin lose significant amounts of weight and show signs of being quite sick.

His diet of alcohol and dope will cause other health issues such as migraines or aching muscles. He may have this churned up feeling in his gut which has him imagining he has cancer or some other serious illness. His whole focus is on himself but in a negative way and so the situation with Johnnys mental health starts to get really critical. Lack of exercise and a poor diet will take its toll. He needs to seek immediate help for his depression.

The problem is, that he does not know what is wrong with him and he needs a good caring friend or family member to reach out and help him.

Go Away and Leave Me Alone!

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It has reached a point where it is almost impossible to connect with Johnny. He does not want your help. He feels a failure, like he has let everyone down. He is very alone, very miserable showing physical signs of ill health and generally not functioning as a happy, wholesome individual.

Johnny needs help and he needs it immediately. Getting Johnny to recognize that fact may be the most difficult part for a family member to do. In Australia, we have plenty of resources to help such as Lifeline Phone 131114 and

Beyond Blue. 1300224636

If you relate to any of the scenarios above or know someone who does then it is wise to contact outside help such as these to get appropriate help.

Climbing a Mountain Can Be Challenging:

Dealing With Depression is Easier with Help

It may seem like there is no way to get out of this miserable valley of darkness and despair but with help and the acknowledgment that you require help, it can be achieved.

It starts with taking the first steps then putting one foot after the other until you reach the first base camp. That is a beginning and with the right support mechanisms in place you will be able to move forward until you reach the summit. This is the point of exhilaration and joy. The baggage can be dropped down a ravine as you climb. You will breathe in the fresh mountain air and know the intense joy of having been successful in conquering a very steep mountain

. A mountain which at first may have seemed higher than Everest with more obstacles along the way. There may be a few avalanches which will set you back but you must continue with your team of helpers until you reach the summit. They will help you carry the load, they will help you toss off all the unnecessary baggage and they will celebrate with you when you finally shake off the shackles of depression and draw energy and new life from the vision for the future laid out before you.

People suffering depression need the help of a good friend
We should not try to climb a mountain alone

Don’t Go it Alone

No mountaineer will attempt to climb a steep mountain without his support team. You need professional and trained people to give you the right kind of support and give you a nudge or even carry the load for you. It is not an admission of weakness but rather a demonstration of strength in that you are well-prepared for the journey and that you are smart enough to acknowledge that you cannot do this alone.

It is not a days hike, it may take several weeks or even months but you can do it one day at time, one step at a time.

In the same way depression is like a mountain to climb and without professional help the sufferer will remain in the valley and never reach the pinnacle.

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Comments

    • Barbara
    • January 28, 2019
    Reply

    This is such a profound theme to talk about. I have been down in my time, and sometimes feel lonely and sad, I guess we all do in our life, but there are people that more than others are feeling down, are truly depressed and sometimes it is hard to see it because they hide it so well. Because they hide. I love your article, I love the fact that it makes me remember that we should help each other and not undermine the great risk of depression. Thank you

      • admin
      • January 28, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you for your comment Barbara. It is an issue we need to be open and honest about. You are right some people suffering depression can be very clever at masking the condition and allow it to go unchecked till one day it gets out of hand. We need to be sensitive to each other and if we suspect someone is struggling to ask “Are you OK?”

    • Jay
    • January 28, 2019
    Reply

    A lot of us can relate to this. If this is not properly tackled, it can lead to depression which in turn can lead to other dangerous outcomes which might include suicide. Such persons need help and most of the time don’t accept the fact that they have a problem. It is really disturbing and those that actually care about such persons should not hesitate to render their help.

    I have passed through this type of situation before and although I am not fully out of it yet but due to the help of a friend, I was able to begin seeing the light. This is why having a good friend is really important as they can help you when you face situations like this.

      • admin
      • January 28, 2019
      Reply

      Jay you are right, the power of friendship, good strong friendships is very important to keep balance and stay on top of depression when it lurks back into our psyche.  Be gentle with yourself and do not condemn yourself when you do suffer a bout of depression. It is an illness and you need to be honest with those around you and get the help you need when it comes upon you. 

    • Joy gateru
    • January 28, 2019
    Reply

    This post really caught my attention I think I am the ‘jonny’ who is highlighted in this post we have more similarity, personally I started this feeling after high school as we parted with many friends and went back to my local home area, I did not have many friends there and I believe the problem started there, I always saw everything was negative and against me including my parents, I really had hard times but mother did something I will never forget she acted like a stepping stone for my in helping me to get back to my normal life, through some training and counseling, I gradually started accepting my self and adapting to live with others, thanks to you who posted this post, how I wish I had such information in my times of trouble, I am sure to follow your post to learn more on how to ovecy this challenging frastrating depression, 

    do you have written hard copy articles or books about depression? I think I would buy some to learn even more, 

    thank you for this post am sure it will help many.

    From Joy.

      • admin
      • January 28, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you Joy for your response and for being so frank. I am glad your mother was sensitive to your needs and able to help you through it by getting professional help. Depression affects 1 in 4 people and it can be very debilitating. I strongly believe in the power of prayer and seeking peace with God. I also feel the power of a strong friendship is very important and you need to be honest with your friend confidant about how you feel and ask them to support you through the struggles. If you feel you are drowning under the depression then get some good professional help.  Depression is an illness and it can sneak back if we do not keep on guard against it. 

    • dreamgirl93
    • January 28, 2019
    Reply

    Hello, Lately I am having some feelings of deep desperation and an inability to concentrate. It’s the second time in my life that this happens to me. I hope this state doesn’t become even worse to the point that it was the last time I experienced it. My way to cope with these feelings is to focus on the present moment and dive deep into work. The worst part is that loved ones don’t understand. My fiancee thinks that I’m cold to him, like I am doing something to him after everything he has done to me. But this is just the way I feel now? Do you have any suggestion on how to cope with this aspect?

      • admin
      • January 28, 2019
      Reply

      Hi and thank you for being so open an honest about how you are feeling. This takes courage and it is the first step towards healing. You are not to blame for how you feel, it is not something you can turn on or off like a tap. I think you need to find someone you can talk to who you trust. You need to be honest with your fiance and how you feel and maybe together get some professional help. If you do not keep it in check, it will get worse and you will end up being distanced from those you love and who love you. .Seeking help in the spiritual realm can help too. Call out to God and ask Him to give you His peace. I will pray that you get the help you need. 

    • Richard
    • January 28, 2019
    Reply

    I have often thought about this,why can’t I be like others that seems to have it all together. It was a question that I searched high and low for an answer until someone put it into perspective for me. I was comparing my behind the scenes with other peoples highlight reels. 

    It does not stop the thoughts from entering my head but it helps in putting out the fire before it spreads. Its a struggle every day but I have found to have a few basic steps written down to follow when I feel this way forces me to break the cycle of self doubt and loathing,

    Rich

      • admin
      • January 28, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you for sharing Rich. Would you be able to post your steps so that others might be helped by them. It is good that you have worked out a strategy for you that helps. you but that same method might help others who are struggling too. 

    • rjkennedy
    • January 28, 2019
    Reply

    Like you posted in your heading; depression is a serious issue. The examples you mentioned in your article was ‘spot on.’ A person going through depression thinks of many excuses not to be around people. Depression can even lead to suicide. I’ve read many stories on how people, even some famous ones, took themselves out through depression. Help is always there, but many never seek it or seek it out too late.

      • admin
      • January 28, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you for taking time to comment. You are so right. It is often left too long before people seek help and do you know its often those closest who are unaware of how serious the problem is.

    • Kenechi
    • January 28, 2019
    Reply

    Climbing a mountain or climbing the ladder of success  doesn’t need to climb alone. You will definitely need someone to support you because no one is ever an Ireland, you will need someone to encourage you and hold you on at a certain stage of life. Your story is quite long but it’s filled with some elements of inspirations

      • admin
      • January 28, 2019
      Reply

      We are often too independent and self sufficient and fail to ask others for help when we need it most. Pride can be a big stumbling block. Thank you for commenting. 

    • AbiodunS
    • January 28, 2019
    Reply

    Great and inspiring article. Johnny’s situation is very common among youths in our society. When someone feels neglected and uncared for, depression will set in and one may consider committing suicide.

    The world we live is full of challenges and uncertainties, however it is not enough reason to think that one is worthless. You must first realize that you are not alone in it. Then you seek help from people who can help. 

      • admin
      • January 28, 2019
      Reply

      You are spot on with your response. Thank you for sharing. Awareness of the problem is a first start then we need to look out for those around us. 

    • Seun Afotanju
    • January 28, 2019
    Reply

    This article has really caused me to reminisce on old times where depression usually kicks in and make you want to be alone and still happens till now even at work, I don’t really like associating with others for some reason I can’t explain. My question is how can I help myself from being unhappy all the time?

      • admin
      • January 29, 2019
      Reply

      Seun happiness comes from within and if you are not feeling happy any of the time you might well be experiencing some form of depression or mental illness. It is not healthy to be unhappy all of the time so please get some help.to determine why and seek answers as to what you can do to improve your emotional well being. 

      Here are a few ideas to improve how you feel 

      A walk on the beach or in the bush, or by a river. Exercise helps to stimulate all those endorphins that control how you feel.

      Invite a friend to go for a coffee or go to a movie, preferably an inspirational or funny movie. Laughter is the best medicine. 

      Make sure you have a good wholesome diet. The brain needs to be nourished too. Brain foods

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