What is wrong with Me?
I Can’t Function Like Other People!
Am I Suffering Depression?
The following is a possible scenario involving some young people but one of them is suffering undiagnosed depression.
Friend: “Hey how about coming to the footy with us?”
Johnny: “ I just don’t feel like it, I would rather stay home”. “Besides it costs money and I am not that interested in the footy anyway.”
Friend: “Then what about meeting a bunch of friends at the pub after the match. We will shout if money is an issue.?”
Johnny : ” Aw no I am too tired, I want to go to bed early tonight.”
These are just lame excuses indicating a lack of interest in spending time with friends. The friends will start to drift away and Johnny becomes more alone and more depressed.
Mother “How are you going with that job application, can I help you with it?”
Johnny: Yells “Get lost and mind your own f**k**g business. “
Johnny has lost motivation and his fuse has become quite short so his family are the most likely to cop the short end of the stick. Angry outbursts become a regular scenario and parents or siblings no longer know how to approach Johnny. He cannot focus on completing any tasks and fills his time as a recluse, smoking dope or consuming alcohol in the false belief that it will help him feel better.
You see Johnny is showing typical signs of depression but nobody really recognises it. He does not even understand himself that he is suffering from depression.
I Feel Like Shit and Nobody Cares!
Johnny is spending more and more time either locked away in his room or wandering down the street aimlessly. Little things might set him off and he will get very irritated. A little kid rides his bike past as Johnny is walking slowly toward the park.” There will be no eye contact between the two but the kid senses something is not right with Johnny so asks ” are you OK mate? The response sends the kid on his way with the words wrack off still resonating in his head.
Johnny feels a bit guilty because of his reaction but justifies it by thinking ” he should have minded his own damn business.”
He continues along the road aimlessly feeling extremely unhappy, and irritated by everyone and everything. He will kick anything in the way to try to overcome his frustration with life in general but nothing makes him feel any better. After several hours of wandering he might return to his room feeling more miserable than he was before. His room will be unkempt and he will feel extremely frustrated when he can’t find something he wants to use such as his phone. .
His family and friends do care but it is getting increasingly frustrating for them too. Nobody really understands that he is suffering a bout of deep depression and he needs some help but he is unable to see it himself.
My Life is Not Worth Living!
I am a f**kin idiot. ” I can’t do anything right, nobody really cares about me and no one will miss me if I am not here anymore.
“My life is over, I can’t go on living like this. Everything is all my fault and I am just not good enough to stay in this world, it and everybody in it would be better off without me.”
Johnny’ s feelings are overwhelming and the more these thoughts play over in his head the more at risk he is of committing suicide. His mind does not see things rationally and where for most people they can enjoy feeling positive and optimistic for Johnny this is no longer possible. He continues to wallow in negative thoughts about himself and the world around him until one day he will decide the world really would be better off without him and suicide will become his method of resolving the things bothering him.
Johnny is suffering deep depression and he needs to seek some expert help before it is too late.
I am So Tired, I Just Want to Sleep!
Johnny is getting increasingly tired. He spends more and more time sleeping. He may be experiencing muscle weakness and lack of energy and so spending more time in bed seems to be the answer.
He is not eating proper meals and could begin lose significant amounts of weight and show signs of being quite sick.
His diet of alcohol and dope will cause other health issues such as migraines or aching muscles. He may have this churned up feeling in his gut which has him imagining he has cancer or some other serious illness. His whole focus is on himself but in a negative way and so the situation with Johnnys mental health starts to get really critical. Lack of exercise and a poor diet will take its toll. He needs to seek immediate help for his depression.
The problem is, that he does not know what is wrong with him and he needs a good caring friend or family member to reach out and help him.
Go Away and Leave Me Alone!
It has reached a point where it is almost impossible to connect with Johnny. He does not want your help. He feels a failure, like he has let everyone down. He is very alone, very miserable showing physical signs of ill health and generally not functioning as a happy, wholesome individual.
Johnny needs help and he needs it immediately. Getting Johnny to recognize that fact may be the most difficult part for a family member to do. In Australia, we have plenty of resources to help such as Lifeline Phone 131114 and
Beyond Blue. 1300224636
If you relate to any of the scenarios above or know someone who does then it is wise to contact outside help such as these to get appropriate help.
Climbing a Mountain Can Be Challenging:
Dealing With Depression is Easier with Help
It may seem like there is no way to get out of this miserable valley of darkness and despair but with help and the acknowledgment that you require help, it can be achieved.
It starts with taking the first steps then putting one foot after the other until you reach the first base camp. That is a beginning and with the right support mechanisms in place you will be able to move forward until you reach the summit. This is the point of exhilaration and joy. The baggage can be dropped down a ravine as you climb. You will breathe in the fresh mountain air and know the intense joy of having been successful in conquering a very steep mountain
. A mountain which at first may have seemed higher than Everest with more obstacles along the way. There may be a few avalanches which will set you back but you must continue with your team of helpers until you reach the summit. They will help you carry the load, they will help you toss off all the unnecessary baggage and they will celebrate with you when you finally shake off the shackles of depression and draw energy and new life from the vision for the future laid out before you.
Don’t Go it Alone
No mountaineer will attempt to climb a steep mountain without his support team. You need professional and trained people to give you the right kind of support and give you a nudge or even carry the load for you. It is not an admission of weakness but rather a demonstration of strength in that you are well-prepared for the journey and that you are smart enough to acknowledge that you cannot do this alone.
It is not a days hike, it may take several weeks or even months but you can do it one day at time, one step at a time.
In the same way depression is like a mountain to climb and without professional help the sufferer will remain in the valley and never reach the pinnacle.
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